The thread responds to a quote from @Sylviaposts about hearing this constantly in San Francisco. She builds robotics at Haptalabs and the implication is clear: competence and appearance are being treated as mutually exclusive for women, especially in technical fields. This fits a pattern across the feed of people being told they don't belong. Whether it's lawyers being overrepresented in power, women being coded as "not technical enough," or CEOs deciding who gets medical care, the gatekeeping is constant. The difference is some people have the resume to make the gatekeepers shut up anyway.